Dear Steve,
Guess what our daughter learned from your abandonment? She told me there’s no point in working really hard because all it gets you is screwed by your colleagues. Thanks to you and that sick fuck from DC and all your sycophantic colleagues who refused to stand up to that motherfucking bully.
You’re nothing more than a deluded old douche bag who thinks he’s do-gooder but in fact is just a spineless douche bag who hangs around for the free hotels and fancy food, like a freeloading fuck. Fuck you. You made a pass at her and didn’t have the balls to stand up to that sicko bully fuck. Fuck you.
Dear Steve,
It’s time for me to stop feeling like a victim. Wish I could. Sadly, the evidence of that mess is a daily part of my life. During sleep. While I’m awake. It hurts so much to realize that people who purport to be “good” can have so callously tossed away a person and her family. You and your colleagues just plain suck.
Look in the mirror. If you saw yourself as I see you, you’d fall to your knees in abject pain. You and those other douche bags are no better than the callous urban dwellers who turn a deaf ear and blind eye to a crime victim because they don’t want to get involved. How do you not hate yourself? Fuck you and fuck your colleagues.
Dear Steve,
One of the things that amazes most about Her situation is how He was able to so easily shuck the bully mantle for that of victim. It’s so disingenuous and unbecoming of a man who is supposed to be powerful.
That approach and it’s rhetoric is part of a disturbing trend among perpetrators of all stripes to adopt the language of victimization and to use it to turn the tables on their victims thereby doubly victimizing their prey.
I really thought you guys were smart enough to see through that sort of bullshit.
Do you know the Buddhist concept of dependent origination? Had the accusations been legitamate or had people acted with decency, that would not have been necessary.
Even if the accusations were true, which they were not, or even if the organization concluded it was in its best interest to make a change, there is no defense for tolerating the bullying, or for retroactively cancelling our health insurance or ending the relationship without transition assistance or for calling the unemployment office and explicitly accuusing her of stealing $100k.
Those behaviors were indefensible and positively indecent. Did you know, for example, that she was diagnosed with cancer shortly after our insurance was cancelled?
Things ended badly. The lack of decency was extremely injurious to Her (and her family). Everyone abandoned her in the end, whether out of self-interest or bien-pensant–despite many years of sincere and devoted service.
As for the “other reasons.” That’s your karma Only you can fix it.
Dear Steve,
She just received an email from a former colleague containing a link to a virus. Weren’t the false accusations and the betrayal enough? Isn’t the organization content with ruining her career and health? Now we have to worry about our computers being attacked!
I say this without an ounce of hyperbole, you cannot begin to fathom the suffering visited upon Roberta and our family. Sick fuck that his is, I’m sure that would make a certain individual very happy–maybe others too?
Please take the necessary actions to motivate the responsible parties to leave her alone once and for all. She’s trying hard to get better and these sorts of things set her back.
P.S., If the organization is going to send us anything else, how about her personal effects or my computer equipment, which they (what’s that clever legal euphemism?) converted without permission? -B
P.P.S, I can’t believe you are still with the organization. Don’t you find it the least bit ironic that that such a cast of characters pass judgment on other people’s ethical behavior? Weren’t you in the least bit troubled that they so easily turned their backs on her? Come to think of it, to this day, you have never once inquired about her well being–despite numerous protestations of affection and love. I guess either you believed the lies or you didn’t want to know the answer. You wouldn’t want to get the ivory town dirty, would you?
Dear Steve,
It’s been over three years and still you have not made good on your promise to leave the organization in protest for how it’s former Executive Director was mistreated. The president at the time has severely injured the object of his hatred which in turn plunged her family into chaos and profound sadness. It has affected her children’s grades and outlook on life. How do you reconcile your continued association? Especially since you do so much work for the disadvantaged through your job and especially since you travel to a war zone on the other side of the world to help people. Shame on you.
I was cleaning up my email folders today and came across a message from you that contained this:
On Jun 30, 2008, at 3:39 PM, Steve wrote:
MW wants out, and who can blame her. So do I. I won’t abandon [her colleagues\ MP and GC after MW leaves for a new job, but I do plan to leave as soon as I can after MW leaves.
See you in Philly.
Of course she wanted out. KSB assaulted her, emotionally tortured her, his sham committee supported the president, one-by-one her colleagues, many of whom she’d known for over twenty years, turned their backs and permitted KSB’s depredations. You and the others knew what KSB did was wrong. You knew she was being bullied and that he was lying. Yet you stood by and watched it happen.
From what I can tell it appears you still with the Organization? If so what does that say? I guess as time has passed it has gotten easier to forget that you were of the opinion KSB was a lying bully who destroyed a good person’s career, her health, and severely injured her family? You cannot begin to imagine the suffering caused by KSB. And for what? Enriching his friend’s n’ere do well son. Sport? Vanity? Boredom with the status quo?
Moreover, even if KSB’s allegations were true, which everyone knows they were not, she deserved better from you all. No transition assistance, retroactively canceling her health family’s insurance, after she’d been fired, KSB alleged to unemployment that she stole over $100,000. No doubt, he spread those lies among her colleagues throughout the certification industry.
And, by the way, I managed to singlehandedly tun my town’s political situation inside out. The other four members on the board when I got elected, the ones that needed to go, are gone. Their town administrator has been fired and that group;s political clout has been reduced to zero after a 15+ year run.
How is it that a nobody like me can take on bullies and creeps and change a whole town and a board of so called successful and powerful trail lawyers, professors, bar officials and judges allowed one man to wreak so much havoc?
April 30, 2008
Dear Steve,
How are you? I am sorry to impose on our relationship but things are a mess. I trust that you will at least listen and not share my words with your colleagues on the board.
We’ve been living under the threat of a man bent on destroying MWs career for over a year now. The Organization has been her life’s work. She is strong enough to withstand his baseless attacks and determined never to give in, however, KSB’s attacks are seriously affecting MW s health and our family life–as in our kids. MW and I just had words over whether we should spend money on mosquito control for our property. I found myself having to remind her that we cannot spend any unnecessary money because there’s a man, at this very moment, plotting to destroy her career.
I serve on many boards and committees now and in fact am an elected official in my town and, therefore, have first hand knowledge of board dynamics. Bullies bully to the extent that their peers allow. Please help. I know you are only one voice on that board but can you organize SOMETHING to stop this guy?
-PI
MW attended a board of directors meeting shortly after the last post was written. We both expected KSB to have enough votes fire MW. For some reason, the board chose not to and, instead appointed a “Home Office” committee that was allegedly tasked with defining MW’s role and authority. There was an executive session at the end of the meeting. We have come to believe this was the beginning of the Board’s complicity in KSB’s efforts to fire MW.